Have you ever seen one child playing alone in the playground, completely detached from the noises around him or her? This child might have even expressed the opinion that they preferred their own company and it was more fun to play alone than join in.
For parents to see their child with a lack of friends, becomes a worrying experience but there is a name for this. It could be attributed to Social Dyslexia.
Whatever a child says, all children want a friend and to belong, it is an important part of enjoying growing up. Friendships lead us to experience all the emotions we need to share with others, such as anger, disappointment, joy or reconciliation.
New research shows that parent’s top worry with their children, above school work, is whether their children have friends.
Ground breaking schemes from the US are treating social difficulties in the playground.
Social Dyslexia is being treated like any other learning difficulty. It is seen as a difficulty to understand and interpret social cues.
This is not just for children somewhere on the autistic spectrum but to help youngsters to understand the complex rules of friendship.
The reason some youngsters are left out and socially awkward, could be because they came into the world with fewer social skills than others and therefore become anxious in social situations, making everything worse.
75% of communication is facial expression and body language, tone of voice & stance and only 25% is language. Those children who are slow at recognising the 75% visual clues, are at a serious disadvantage.
Children who have problems understanding non-verbal signals (also known as Dyssemia) can quickly be seen as ‘wierdo’s’ by the rest of the class and the label sticks.
An emphasis on teaching children to be taught about friendship now is important as they have such close contact with rejection and exclusion thanks to social media.
Possibly Digital friendships are so easy to come by, children are less inclined to develop real life ones.
Socially awkward children could find it easier to make friends on-line and not in real life.
READ Tanith Carey
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